What to do when you're in the middle of change
I think this is a topic we all can relate: how do we feel in the middle of change?
Below is my blog post on this subject. Please share your own stories...
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I just read a blog of a 29Gift friend; she's having a difficult time seeing her worth. I understand a bit of this, coming to the challenge looking for change within myself as I cope with serious illness.
It's as if we're yearning for a new place so badly, and we've been at trying to change for a while, but we don't see the final clear picture of change... so we throw our hands up in the air and sob, "It's too much!"
Then we want to run to the privacy of our rooms, throw covers over our heads, and sob into our pillows. "Forget this!" We cry. "It's too hard!" Sniffle. "I'm not good enough!"
But of course we are good enough. We can't forget we are called to something greater than the way we've been living/thinking/dreaming. It's only as hard as we make it.
If we look back on our written record of the giving we've been doing, we see that we have made a difference. In fact, some days our impact on others spread like a giant ripple into the cosmos.
In those days, we felt like jeweled Queens in a technicolor world with attending birds singing songs of joy at our every step. We had faith our giving presence would reign on forever.
But when we're met with days where the sink is clogged, the kids are screaming, our bodies are failing us, the men we yearn for are bored with us, drivers throw hostile fingers at us, people who don't give back want more from us, the weather is gray, the air is cold and our bones are stiff-- our hope turns stale.
This is when we must do what is hardest. Give anyway.
Our job is to remember the sink's nature is to help the waters flow, children are born to laugh, our bodies are called to move, and lovers are meant to share and spread love.
Our challenge is to smile instead of a sneer, offer a hug when our arms feel empty, and see incredible beauty in the vast spectrum of shades of gray.
Our challenge is to hold space for hope, for change, for health, for new habits and for all the things we desire. In holding space and continuing to practice, we loosen our hold on our old ways. As the grip loosens, we may experience fear, but if we keep practicing, our fear will pass. The new us will emerge.
So if you are stuck in the middle of not-where-you-want-to be, remember: this is how we dance heat into our bones.
Below is my blog post on this subject. Please share your own stories...
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I just read a blog of a 29Gift friend; she's having a difficult time seeing her worth. I understand a bit of this, coming to the challenge looking for change within myself as I cope with serious illness.
It's as if we're yearning for a new place so badly, and we've been at trying to change for a while, but we don't see the final clear picture of change... so we throw our hands up in the air and sob, "It's too much!"
Then we want to run to the privacy of our rooms, throw covers over our heads, and sob into our pillows. "Forget this!" We cry. "It's too hard!" Sniffle. "I'm not good enough!"
But of course we are good enough. We can't forget we are called to something greater than the way we've been living/thinking/dreaming. It's only as hard as we make it.
If we look back on our written record of the giving we've been doing, we see that we have made a difference. In fact, some days our impact on others spread like a giant ripple into the cosmos.
In those days, we felt like jeweled Queens in a technicolor world with attending birds singing songs of joy at our every step. We had faith our giving presence would reign on forever.
But when we're met with days where the sink is clogged, the kids are screaming, our bodies are failing us, the men we yearn for are bored with us, drivers throw hostile fingers at us, people who don't give back want more from us, the weather is gray, the air is cold and our bones are stiff-- our hope turns stale.
This is when we must do what is hardest. Give anyway.
Our job is to remember the sink's nature is to help the waters flow, children are born to laugh, our bodies are called to move, and lovers are meant to share and spread love.
Our challenge is to smile instead of a sneer, offer a hug when our arms feel empty, and see incredible beauty in the vast spectrum of shades of gray.
Our challenge is to hold space for hope, for change, for health, for new habits and for all the things we desire. In holding space and continuing to practice, we loosen our hold on our old ways. As the grip loosens, we may experience fear, but if we keep practicing, our fear will pass. The new us will emerge.
So if you are stuck in the middle of not-where-you-want-to be, remember: this is how we dance heat into our bones.
Tags: change
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Permalink Reply by To the Moon on -
WELL SAID!!!!
And the perfect reminder even more so that Thanksgiving is approaching.
Continued Blessings To You ;-) -
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Permalink Reply by fitzthekat on -
So it is said that God gives you exactly what you need. I woke up this morning in the pit of despair. I am going through so many things right now including a breakup that believe me has been a long time coming but i am grieving the loss and can't get her outta my head. I came on 29gifts and I find myself here listening to/seeing words that are exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you. In the mean time this morning is the first time that I have written anything down that starts to even remotely express how I am feeling. Perhaps this is a beginnning!
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Permalink Reply by CassandraMadeIt on -
Welcome to your beginning! The lovely part of this Challenge is that our stories help others.
In sharing yours, someone will be helped by you, just as my words we able to reach you at the right time. Isn't that wonderful? !!
Thank you for sharing your thoughts with me; it keeps me inspired to keep on... :))))) A full-circles as it were! :DDDD -
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Permalink Reply by Dechele Byrd on -
Like already mentioned you topic of discussion has helped many including myself at this very moment. As I go through a solemn mood and search for answers to the ever changing process I am reminded through your message to continue to push forward and give. I have to remember that I asked for this great change to take place in my life to open me up and let me feel my true and rightful nature. Trusting that the emergence will be great is what I must do.
Thank you so very much for your post. -
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Permalink Reply by CassandraMadeIt on
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Pretty lady, light a candle for yourself. As you do it, ask the Divine to intervene on your behalf. Then every time you look at the candle as you go about your other tasks, breathe in and take solace that the Divine is at work on things for you. You are not doing all this alone. The tides are turning, even as you wash a dish or eat your food... with each breath you are moving in the right direction. You are guided and blessed and all is unfolding as it should. Your opportunities for change are happening, you are changing!
Peace and love to you! -
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Permalink Reply by simply renee on -
Simply beauiful. Thanks for givng me something to think about.
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Permalink Reply by Kathy in the Wallowas on -
Thank you for saying your truth and the reminders so well. I believe giving anyway introduced wonderful new possibilities even when things get hard. Well said.
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