Day Seven
Usually I wait until the day after to make my posts, but I had a 'good' give today, and there isn't much time left before bed.
I gave myself...well, not even sure what word to use....forgiveness? Patience? Basically something happened to get my a bit upset with my wife. Usually I might fume about it, but I made the concious decision that I'd give myself...something 'Peace of mind'? And just let things go. I was much better for it, and again it is a reaction I don't think I'd have thought of if I wasn't thinking so much about giving and this challenge.
Then I gave my wife an 'I love you' text message, which made us both feel quite nice.
I gave myself...well, not even sure what word to use....forgiveness? Patience? Basically something happened to get my a bit upset with my wife. Usually I might fume about it, but I made the concious decision that I'd give myself...something 'Peace of mind'? And just let things go. I was much better for it, and again it is a reaction I don't think I'd have thought of if I wasn't thinking so much about giving and this challenge.
Then I gave my wife an 'I love you' text message, which made us both feel quite nice.
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Comment by CassandraMadeIt on November 25, 2009 at 9:29pm - Now that is a give that makes a huge impact-- on you and your family and those around you! Choosing peace followed by remembering love... awesome. It'll make all your relationships better. You're a great husband. :)
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Comment by genuine on November 25, 2009 at 8:39pm -
I can see this ... a give to the other as well as a give to yourself ...
I had a similar give one day with one of my daycare families, where instead of getting angry I was able to get myself to laugh about it; was much better for me and them, and I too credit this challenge to that reaction
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Comment by Elly Rose on November 25, 2009 at 5:58pm - This was a great give. You apparently feel better since you gave yourself that peace of mind. I love that you followed it up with a special text. A very nice day and gives today.
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Comment by Wendy Jo on November 25, 2009 at 5:27pm - This is a wonderful give to you both! I could use some practice on this. You've inspired me to be more conscious of when I can give forgiveness and peace of mind. Thanks and Happy Thanksgiving to you!!
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Comment by PaulJohn on November 25, 2009 at 5:26pm - Well, it wasn't nearly as serious as something that costs hundreds of dollars, more an emotional frustration, and my wife actually apologized about things later, but my normal reaction would be to brood about it for quite a while, and eventually let go. The give was intended as one to myself, in case I didn't make it sound that way. By not brooding I was giving myself a gift by not taking that time to stew over something that didn't really matter.
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Comment by Bunny Berry on November 25, 2009 at 5:22pm - Paul this is a HUGE gift. One that I need to remember. Just letting something go that would normally send me in a tizzy, and then following it up with an 'I Love You'. Taking notes!
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Comment by Jane on November 25, 2009 at 5:21pm - So great!! Yay for you. Once my husband thru all my dry cleaning clothes away -- hundreds of dollars and I made the same choice as you!
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Comment by Dawn on November 25, 2009 at 5:17pm - it's interesting what this challenge gets us to thinking about...sounds like today's give was also a receive. you gave your wife some slack and yourself some peace of mind. thanks for sharing your experience with us. Happy Thanksgiving! Hugs, Dawn
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Comment by gridone on November 25, 2009 at 5:11pm - Congrats! You managed to give that which can be the most difficult. Good for you! Happy Thanksgiving and Happy forGIVEness!
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Comment by deb jolliff on November 25, 2009 at 4:58pm
- That was so sweet of you PaulJohn! It made for a gr8 day then :o)
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