Today I did a Tom and heard the voice in my head, as I was being lambasted by a member of my family over something so stupid that I wanted to jump up and down and poke their eye over I heard a voice in my head. "Give your patience" said the voice and so I did. The result was the person concerned, calming down much more quickly than usual and apologising :-) I also found this today and I thought it'd be nice to share it:
When a child demands, she's called bossy.
When a parent demands, she's called firm.
When a child yells and screams, she's 'out of control'.
When a parent yells and screams, she's exasperated and tired.
When a child doesn't answer, he's called rude.
When a parent doesn't answer, she's called busy.
When a child isn't satisfied, she's called spoiled.
When a parent isn't satisfied, she's called discerning.
When a child is angry, she's 'out of line'.
When a parent is angry, she's justified.
When a child hits, society calls her violent and aggressive.
When a parent hits, society calls it 'discipline'.
When we can acknowledge and address our double standards, we might stop seeing our kids as so different from us, and realize we are all made of the same tissue, the same needs, the same longings, the same wounds, and the same neurobiological need for attention, empathy and connection. When we take down our walls, we see each other's hearts... ♥♥♥