Day 1 and those difficult feelings

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Comment by Lucy on December 1, 2009 at 6:40pm

I think that is a wonderful first gift to yourself in this time of change. Be gentle with yourself! Don't be afraid to ask for and accept the kindness and support from others that you always gift those around you with. Maybe the reason why you are here right now and so determined to start these days of giving is because you need to give to yourself some of the time and support you give to others. Congratulations on all of these exciting new changes! But don't feel guilty if you are having mixed emotions about all of these things that you feel like should only be sources of happiness. Maybe a gift you could think about giving to yourself would be to create a space in which you can explore all of these changes and feelings perhaps in the form of some time with a therapist. I know that it can work wonders even and especially when you feel like you don't neeed it.
Best of luck! Know that you are not alone in any of this!

Comment by Kristi Logan on December 1, 2009 at 2:09pm

Wow- talk about a whole bunch of life changes all at one time!!! My two cents would be to do what you can and be gentle with yourself. It seems like you want to do the project but also realize your limitations. I have found that, while trying to practice daily gratitude, I've run across similar feelings like yours as I'm trying to go through the whole IVF/fertility process. There are days when I just want to mope and feel totally sorry for myself and chuck the whole gratitude journal out the window, but I'm beginning to realize that while I can be true to and acknowledge my feelings of sadness and frustration, I can also give thanks for the other things in my life that are going well, and it makes the next bout of sadness/stress/frustration a little less difficult. If that makes sense :)

Comment by sunshine on December 1, 2009 at 1:57pm

First - congratulations on the joyous events opening new doors in your life. I think 3 huge changes like this would make anyone stressed and could certainly impact you emotionally and physically. Try to take one day at time and focus on the positive. Stay focused on giving yourself time to adjust. You are not alone.

Comment by golden quill on December 1, 2009 at 11:04am

So many wonderful things are happening in your life. As a first gift to yourself, count your blessings and a second gift would be to share some smiling moments with your new husband, so he is joyous along with you.
Taking small challenges will brighten your day. Just stay motivated and keep trying. Each day will get easier than the day before.

Comment by lynn on December 1, 2009 at 10:54am

Congratulations on the marriage, pregnancy and the move to a new town as well as joining this wonderful adventure in giving! I hope you will enjoy this "challenge" as much as I have... this is the start of my second year here! It can be an amazing experience! Please, don't be hard on yourself! When you look at all the giving you do throughout the day and even realize some of the things you just naturally do are actually "gifts", and you see the reactions of the people who receive your gives, whatever they are, that grumpy part of you will start smiling and brightening right up!

Comment by Deb~ Community Manager on December 1, 2009 at 10:17am

Congratulations first of all! Lots of good things going on for you! Hope the challenge will bring you much joy! Take care and blessings to you :o)

Comment by LuckyGirlJulie on December 1, 2009 at 9:54am

I think we might be soul sisters! Welcome! Congratulations! And I totally understand what that inner-struggle feels like.